
Four days after SavannahMarshMama and I returned to the marshes of Savannah from Los Angeles, George Putnam passed away. Why, you may ask, is this at all relevant or important? The answer lies in an old adage – You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. We were sitting on a couch at our daughter’s L.A. apartment, having feasted on a seafood gumbo (almost our recipe, not giving away all the secrets! ) that we made for the clan. Included in this group was an old family friend of ours — a dyed in the wool, child of the labor movement, 60s radical to the extreme, Irish-American woman who had seen her share of political battles, demonstrations and picket lines. She and SavannahMarshMama talked a long time about the upcoming elections and the candidates — no holds barred. My daughter, to her credit, listened intently. I mentioned to my daughter, after listening to the two “raving leftist”, that I didn’t see much change on the horizon and that both candidates, McCain and Obama, had major flaws in their approach to governance, foreign policy and the economy. I basically said they all had fingers in the same pie and were not willing to make the major changes Americans needed to meet future challenges. She paused for reflection, looked at me and said point blank, “You people are too cynical”. It was an indictment, a blunt separation of her reality from our past. I was reminded immediately of my youth, my grandfather and the reporter George Putnam. Let me explain.
My grandfather was a Mississippi, Bay St. Louis Creole cowboy, raised in the delta and the bayou. He was amongst the last regiment of Buffalo Soldiers who fought in the 1916 Excursions into the Philippines. His background was the mish-mash that made America great — a mix of Austrian (Dalmatian) sailor, Choctaw Indians and Black slaves — the “gumbo” that is New Orleans. He spoke French Creole until he was 12 years old and had to learn English to work in New Orleans. He played Dixieland Jazz on a one-string washtub bass. He worked as a postman to sustain his family, then as a carpenter, until the time that he escaped the south and moved to L.A. to make wooden overhead cabins for McDonald Douglas DC7 airplanes. He basically fled the south for two reasons, 1) his daughter, my mother, lost her husband and had four whelps to take care of, and, 2) he had his fill of the “color line” politics of the old South. He and my grandmother packed up the house, the old Packard, and headed for L.A. This event occurred circa 1950s. You’d think that such a man would have embraced the political and cultural changes that took place in America during the 60s. This was far from his reality. He loved the right wing commentaries of George Putnam and defended his “America Love It or Leave It” philosophy over wine and cigars in his garage carpentry shop whenever he felt the need to pontificate. I’d talk about Martin Luther King, Malcolm X, Muhammad Ali (who he always called Cassius Clay) and he’d talk about the communist takeover of America, defending God and country, why we had to go to Vietnam and win, etc. I loved him, learned from him, but we had major differences. Hence, what goes around comes around. I realized that I had a lot to learn from my daughter. SavannahMarshMama and I may be becoming her George Putnam! I hope, in retrospect, that the differences are not as extreme.
My daughter and her man, a good Southerner from Atlanta don’t ya know, face a world that is fraught with economic uncertainties, changing political climates, and a declining American contribution to the world on the heels of years of inept American leadership. They are both highly committed to their communities, to teaching and to making a difference. I realized, after spending some time with them and visiting their workplace, just how difficult it is for them to maintain their commitments to service in today’s America. It is not what we faced at their age. It is more difficult by exponential factors. And it is apparent that this is true for their counterparts worldwide. My daughter, a woman who has faced her demons on many levels and conquered them, struggles to push on. She is my heroine in that she continues to have hope in her future. I realized that her comment about our old age cynicism was correct and had a basis in fact. Our reality is not her reality and the America she and her children will inherit is as much in her hands as it was when we were her age. This is as it should be. Just as I learned from my grandfather, she has learned from me — keeping the essence of the experience and discarding the lessons stuck in a certain time, a certain historical process.
I watched, listened and hopefully learned. She is an extraordinary teacher and gives to all her students every fiber of her being. They are the better for it without a doubt. Her experiences in the U.S. and Europe are given freely to her students. She makes them know that they can be whatever they want and achieve their dream
We cooked two home meals with them – a beautiful Seafood Risotto that the men prepared, and a Seafood Gumbo that she and I prepared. Their home was as inviting as an old pair of jeans. I took comfort in that and I know, even after listening to her anxieties, that she will be OK and that my grandchildren will have a solid footing to carry on the traditions of this family. And all of this smack dab in L.A.
L.A. is many things to man
We were invited to a meal with them and my son’s father and mother-in-law. They are an older Korean American couple, first wave immigrants, and very religious. We are what you have gleaned from this blog. I need not say more. We went to a chic new wave Japanese restaurant in the hip loft district in downtown L.A. — R23. My son’s father-in-law lives with vivid memories of the Japanese invasion of Korea. It’s actually one of the endearing things about the old boy. I’ve had lively discussions with him in the past as he recounted his dislike of the Japanese. Needless to say he had some gems for me during the meal at R23 — why Korean food is different (code better) than Japanese. Fun and games. My daughter-in-law, long ago comfortable with her Americaness, is always a joy to observe. She should switch careers and join the State Department.
We visited my son’s apartment in Glendale, a nearby suburb of Los Angeles. They live in a community that is now predominately Iranian. It dawned on me that the new immigrants to L.A. are not so much interested in L.A. as they are in making money. They come to L.A. like ants to sugar, each taking a grain of sugar until the pile is depleted. This is the danger to L.A., the balkanization based on economics. Somehow I think L.A. will survive and turn all the carpetbagger’s children into Angelenos in spite of their cultural biases.
My son and daughter-in-law’s commitment to be their own persons, to stay independent, was refreshing. I left their business in downtown L.A., although it is under siege, knowing that whatever happens, they will survive and stay apart from the 9-5 crowd. I’m hoping that my son finds a way to be a mini-Balzac. Balzac ran a printing press and wrote novels as a means to keep the press going in financial bad times. Rag trade – writing – it can happen.
Behold, the youths betook themselves to the Cave: they said, "Our Lord! bestow on us Mercy from Thyself, and dispose of our affair for us in the right way!" Quran: Surah 18, The Cave.
This Quranic quote is for my
We went to lunch, hung out at some of our favori
I was happy to see that he’s taken up reading again. There was a time during the recent past when he had stopped feeding his brain. Now his intellect is demanding full attention. He’s as opinionated as ever, as cantankerous as ever, and I love him as much as ever. I know the Hollywood Biz is wearing him down, but I also know he is one of those people who can persevere and rise to the top. I’m looking for him to make the next move — DP (Director of Photography). But that’s just me. Hooray for Hollywood!
We learned, upon our return to Dixie, that he moved temporarily to a better neighborhood — he’s house sitting for a bud whose house is being renovated. He’ll be setting up house in the near future and leaving the healing man-cave era behind. Here’s to his resurrection, well on the way.
As I post this last guest blog, I’m preparing to hit the road again. SavannahMarshMama and I are stretching out every minute together. Our second son and his wife are on their way back to the states from a three year sojourn in Spain. Good news, I get to see them before I leave. I will have to blog again in the future to tell you about the Madridniks, as SavannahMarshMama calls them. I’m sure she’ll have something to say about them over the next few weeks.
To all my children — I love you madly. Thanks to all my wife’s friends and readers for reading my entries and for your encouraging comments.
P.S. — Going pheasant hunting in South Dakota with my dudes when I get back. Thank God for small favors.

Peace
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